Is the Dating Pool for Folks 50+ a Cesspool

 

Is it just me, or has the world of dating gone completely haywire in recent years?

The other day, while running some errands with my youngest daughter and her youngest son, we happened to get flagged down by a tractor trailer driver. As I was driving, my daughter did all of the conversing and we soon became aware that this rather handsome gentleman was interested in connecting with me. (He asked my daughter if she was ok with him talking to her fine Mamma?) After the initial shock wore off, and over fits of laughter, she let him know that yes, it was ok and then he shouted out his cellphone number. My fellow Minxes know that nothing about that entire scenario is typical for me, but as I had recently opened myself back up to the possibility of dating, this seemed to be right on time. As my daughter was ALL for hanging up my hermit title, she took the number and texted him my number and soon enough, my phone was ringing. The initial conversation, although brief, was pleasant enough. I learned that we’re both October babies, both in our 50s (he was turning 56 the following Tuesday), and was from Philadelphia. The conversation then turned to him asking me whether I had pretty feet or not, and although I was a bit uncomfortable I chalked it up to his uncanny way of wanting to break the ice. After a few more minutes of conversation, I ended the call, agreeing to call him later on that evening. Later on that evening, although I was hesitant to call him, (I’m an introvert and the thought of conversing with him was draining my mental already…should have taken that as a red flag!), I was also bored and curious, so I figured why not? Almost immediately after the pleasantries, he brought up the ‘pretty feet’ again, and after another successful, (or so I thought) redirect, he steered the conversation towards sex. When I shared that I was celibate and had been for the past 6+ years, he expressed mild disappointment, (I say mild because HE HAS A WOMAN!), but wanted to know what it would take to ‘break’ me, (i.e., money, car, home, trips, clothing, etc.) I was floored! I couldn't believe that this guy was actually trying to cheat on his partner with a random woman. It was clear to me that he had no respect for himself, his partner, or me. Needless to say, that conversation ended quickly. This experience left me wondering what the dating pool for folks 50+ is really like. If this guy felt comfortable enough to "shoot his shot" in this way, then what are other people out there like?

Is The Dating Pool For Folks 50+ A Cesspool?

I thought that people in our age group would be more mature and respectful. Is it full of people who are divorced, lonely, and desperate? Folks willing to do anything to find someone, even if it means cheating and/or disrespecting themselves and others? I know that dating can be tough, but I also know that it's important for me to not become discouraged and remain positive. I know that not all men I encounter will be like the tractor trailer driver in this story, and despite all the stories from the Podcast Bros and Social Media, there are good men out there who are looking for meaningful, long-lasting relationships. The plan is to remain patient, (Help Me Father!); not lean on my own understanding; allow God to direct my path, while using discernment to keep myself safe! If I happen to meet a nice man along the way, that's great! But I'm not going to go out of my way looking for one. So, to all the single ladies over 50, I say this: Don't Give Up! There are still good men out there. Just be patient, use discernment, and don't settle for anything less than what you deserve. And if you happen to meet a tractor trailer driver on the road who asks you about your feet, run away as fast as you can!

Talk Soon!

Kimberly

The Middle-Aged Minx™

It's My Birthday!

 

My Fellow Minxes,

As I sit down to write these words, I'm filled with a sense of gratitude and wonder. You see, today marks my 53rd journey around the sun, and I can't help but feel the warmth of God's love surrounding me.

Queen for the Day...Fabulous Forever

In this moment, I want to share with you the reflections that have danced through my heart as I celebrate this milestone as a single follower of Yeshua.

I’ve come to understand that ‘Life’ is nothing more than a tapestry woven with threads of joy, challenges, and unexpected surprises. Throughout the past few months, I've come to embrace the beauty of being a middle-aged woman, and even more so, the unique path of a single soul navigating the path of faith. There's a certain strength that comes from walking this journey alone, a strength that arises not from self-sufficiency, but from leaning on the unwavering love of the Creator.

In the midst of societal pressures to conform to certain norms, I've found solace in my faith. As a black woman, the intersections of my identity have often been met with raised eyebrows and well-intentioned questions. But you know, it's in those moments of quiet introspection that I've discovered the true depth of my worth in the eyes of God. Each wrinkle, each gray hair, is a testament to the wisdom that only comes from a life lived.

There's something profoundly beautiful about navigating this journey as a Christian. It's a path lined with grace, forgiveness, and the understanding that I am loved just as I am. The story of my life is written in the margins of the Scriptures, intertwined with stories of strong women who paved the way for me. I think of Esther, who showed courage in the face of uncertainty, and Ruth, who embraced loyalty and love even when the path seemed unclear. Their stories echo in my heart, reminding me that my own narrative is part of a greater tapestry of faith.

As I blow out the candles on my cake, (a Strawberry Shortcake!), I am not simply making a wish, but rather sending a prayer of gratitude to the heavens. Grateful for the joys that have brought laughter to my days and the challenges that have shaped my character. Grateful for the moments of solitude that have allowed me to deepen my relationship with God and discover who I am and the strength that resides within. And yes, grateful for the unwavering support of family and the few friends who have been a source of encouragement and love over the last twelve months.

Now, I invite you to reflect on your own journey. Regardless of where you find yourself – single, married, young, or old – know that your story is precious. Your experiences, your dreams, your heartaches, they all contribute to the masterpiece that is uniquely you and your life. Take a moment to embrace your uniqueness, to bask in the light of God's love, and to cherish the connections that grace your path.

As I conclude these reflections, I want you to know that this isn't the end. This is merely a pause in the beautiful symphony of life. I invite you to share your thoughts, your own reflections, and your stories. Let's create a space where we can learn from one another, uplift each other, and celebrate the diverse paths that we tread.

With heartfelt appreciation for your presence…

Kimberly The Middle-Aged Minx™

It's My Anniversary!

To My Minxes and Fellow Adventurers, It's with immense excitement and a heart full of gratitude that I welcome you to the one-year anniversary celebration of "Random Musings of a Middle-Aged Minx™" blog! 

🎉It's My Anniversary!🎉

It feels like just yesterday that I embarked on this journey to share my thoughts, experiences, and the unique perspective that life has bestowed upon me. As we gather around virtually to commemorate this milestone, let's take a moment to reflect on the whirlwind of whimsy and wonder that this past year has been.

Join me as we traverse the vibrant landscapes of my mind - a landscape colored with the hues of a single, Christian woman in her early 50s, poised to embrace life's enchanting twists and turns. With a heart that seeks the extraordinary in the everyday and an eye for the intriguing, I set out on this adventure to capture the fleeting moments that often slip through the cracks of our bustling lives.

"The Middle-Aged Minx™" has been a haven for amusement and reflection, a tapestry woven with the threads of anecdotes, observations, and reflections that together paint a vivid portrait of life's intricacies. From the mundane to the extraordinary, every post on this blog serves as a reminder that even the seemingly ordinary moments carry the potential to dazzle and inspire.

In a world that sometimes rushes past the beauty around us, my dream and desire is that this blog will stand as a testament to the art of slowing down, of savoring life's flavors, and of finding joy in the little things. It's a celebration of the tedious made incredible, through the lens of a seasoned perspective, offering a viewpoint that's rich with insight and adorned with the sparkle of humor.

As we raise a virtual toast🥂 to this one-year journey, I extend my heartfelt appreciation to each and every one of you who has joined me along the way. As we look ahead to another year of captivating tales and soul-stirring reflections, I invite you to keep pulling up that virtual chair, ready to be entertained, inspired, and encouraged. 

Whether you're a newcomer or have been with me from the beginning, I promise you a treasure trove of stories that celebrate the journey we're all on, and the magic that's woven into the fabric of our lives.

Thank you for being a part of this wonderful adventure. Here's to another year of curiosity, connection, and cherishing the moments that truly matter. As always, I invite you to journey with me through the marvelous maze of life, one captivating story at a time.

With heartfelt gratitude and boundless enthusiasm,

Kimberly

The Middle-Aged Minx™